Trusting in a relationship is an important aspect, yet is something that comes up a lot in relationships and can cause a lot of difficulties when there doesn’t feel there is trust.
Here are some ways to think about trust and ways of trusting someone :
- Reliability
– Do you /they keep their promises – ‘actions speak louder than words’
- Predictability
– Do you / they generally do what they say they will
– Do you / they generally remember to do something on a regular basis
- Honesty
– Do you / they answer or avoid questions
– Do you / they lie to get out of difficult situations
– Are lies part of the relationship
- Loyalty
– Are you / they generally supportive
– Are you / they generally ‘in the others corner’
- Commitment
– Are either of you vague about what you want / expect in the future
– Do both of you ‘stick’ through the mundane up and downs of life
– Do you both have a vision of a future together
- Shared Boundaries
– What do you agree are the most important things to maintain in the relationship
– How similar are your ideas and attitudes to sex, finance, children, work, home life
– What do you both believe about being faithful
– What ideas do yo share about how to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, high days
– What are your attitudes to contact with close and extended family members
My partner and I have used this tool to help start looking at how we can improve the trust in our relationship, it really helped to guide our conversation
Trusting each other in a relationship is such an important thing – thanks Peter glad that is has been helpful.