Arguing and disagreements however solid a relationship, will happen from time to time, and it’s not so much about we shouldn’t have arguments, but more of when we do, how we resolve them in a good way which is important.
There is no doubt that there is a collation about how a couple argue and how these are resolved, which help maintain a healthy relationship. Some things to think about next time you are in an argument:
• Choosing the best time and place – not having difficult or emotionally charged conversations if one of you is tired for example. Out in public might not be the best place either!
• Sticking to what the real issue is about – i.e. don’t make the argument about the washing up if the real issue is unsatisfactory sex!
• Listen to each others’ anger, disappointment, sadness, or whatever else they may be feeling and without interrupting.
• No one runs away – no one leaves before it has finished or goes silent, slams the doors or ‘uses’ tears.
• Physical, verbal and emotional abuse / violence is never acceptable and totally out.
• Avoid hitting below the belt – making it personal, dragging in others, name calling etc.
• Not bringing up grievances from the past.
• Not manipulating each other by withdrawing love or sex.
• Not trying to be a winner and making the other person feel the loser….but to find a way through together.
• Admit our mistakes, and start to look for a positive solution.
Thanks for reading and maybe you have some thoughts you could share about what you do in these situations and what helps. Jason
Mark
Lots of good tips there and guess all guilty of doing some if not all of those things!! Seems simple when see it in black and white : )
Jane
picked up some tips from this post!!