Trusting in a relationship is an important aspect, yet is something that comes up a lot in relationships and can cause a lot of difficulties when there doesn’t feel there is trust.
Here are some ways to think about trust and ways of trusting someone :
- Reliability
– Do you /they keep their promises – ‘actions speak louder than words’
- Predictability
– Do you / they generally do what they say they will
– Do you / they generally remember to do something on a regular basis
- Honesty
– Do you / they answer or avoid questions
– Do you / they lie to get out of difficult situations
– Are lies part of the relationship
- Loyalty
– Are you / they generally supportive
– Are you / they generally ‘in the others corner’
- Commitment
– Are either of you vague about what you want / expect in the future
– Do both of you ‘stick’ through the mundane up and downs of life
– Do you both have a vision of a future together
- Shared Boundaries
– What do you agree are the most important things to maintain in the relationship
– How similar are your ideas and attitudes to sex, finance, children, work, home life
– What do you both believe about being faithful
– What ideas do yo share about how to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, high days
– What are your attitudes to contact with close and extended family members
Peter
My partner and I have used this tool to help start looking at how we can improve the trust in our relationship, it really helped to guide our conversation
Jason Gillery
Trusting each other in a relationship is such an important thing – thanks Peter glad that is has been helpful.